Unconditional Love is not about loving more or better;  its not love on steroids!  Rather, Unconditional Love is the result of a process by which we awaken our Valued Self - a process of Self Realization - wherein we release the deeply held, unconscious baggage (our Shadow) that limits our ability to be a clear expression of ourselves.  The process of awakening Love described earlier, is outward looking - how we give and receive love from those which we perceive as external to ourselves.  To Love Unconditionally means that we can love non-dualistically and without strings attached or limitations.  To do this we have to look inwards and awaken the seven components of the Valued Self:

Seven Components of the Valued Self

Self Awareness:  This is our awareness that we have impact in our physical reality and thus corresponds to our 1st chakra which is the base of our physical reality.

Self Worth:  This is the appreciation of our spiritual nature.  Everyone has 100% Self Worth because we are all expressions of God/Goddess/All-That-Is.  What varies among us is the awareness that each of us has 100% Self Worth!  Since the second chakra is linked to primal creation it corresponds to the awareness of our primal origins...our Self Worth.

Self Love:  This is the Love that we give ourselves.  Since the third chakra picks up and radiates our sense of emotion (honesty and vulnerability);  it corresponds to the honest expression of our Self Esteem.

Self Esteem:  This is the caring and compassion (the Love) that we earn.  Since the fourth chakra picks up and radiates our sense of love;  it is the centre most linked to awakening our Self Esteem.  The fourth chakra is the resonance of the third (emotion) and fifth (expression) chakras, and can be understood as “the expression of love”.  Our Self Esteem is earned based upon our expression of love, hence the connection with the fourth chakra.

Self Confidence:  The fifth chakra, or throat chakra, is tuned to expression/expressiveness.  Self Confidence is our ability to be appropriately expressive.  Self Confidence arises in the alchemy of trust and humility, hope and courage, and the resonance/interrelationship of all four of these.

Self Respect:  This is the appreciation of our emotional nature, the intimacy and caring for ourself.  This is an aspect of Love and Wisdom reflected in the sixth chakra.

Self Realization:  This is the ability to have consciously directed impact.  Personal power is the ability and willingness to act;  it has nothing to do with “power over” someone else.  A Self Realized person is functioning in their power and awakening the full potential reflected in the seventh chakra.

These seven are the components of the Valued Self.  The resonance of these components creates a vibration which attracts a state of Being (a synergy) in us that is Unconditional Love.  To “know thyself” is to know God and to discover the Kingdom of God.

Undoing Delusion

The process of awakening the components of the Valued Self can be seen as the process of undoing the delusion (the dualistic illusion) of the Ego as distinct from the Soul and Spirit.  Not only is God/Goddess/All-That-Is One, we therefore are One...one in the One but also one in our Self.  This quote from Session 24 of the early sessions of Seth’s channeling through Jane Roberts talks about how we evolved the Ego thousands of years ago and invented the current concepts of soul and spirit.  These Ego misconceptions are what we are trying to put aright in reawakening the complete Valued Self:

“In prehistoric times mankind evolved the ego and self-consciousness to help him deal with the camouflage patterns that he had created (aside: camouflage patterns such as linear clock time and other aspects of our illusion of physical reality that we take for granted).  This is no contradiction, and will be explained later.  He did the job so well that even when he had things under control he was not satisfied.  He developed at a lopsided level.  He used himself as a tool to dissect himself.  The inside senses led him to a reality he could not manipulate as easily as he could a camouflage world, and he feared what he thought of as a loss of mastery.

The soul fantasy, or spirit fantasy, arose at about this time, and has been a disadvantage to him because it gives a name and a designation to one part of the whole self, setting it up against the other part.  It is this base conception, however, that also forced him to face one truth despite himself - that of continued existence, to which he gave the word immortality.

This conception is to blame for the superstitious attitudes, however, concerning the inner world as a whole, and some of man’s misconceptions have been ludicrous and pathetic.  I think now mainly of his giving the immaterial inner self a dwelling place formed of physical camouflage.  In other words, a physical heaven and hell.”

Unselfish Love

Jon Peniel in his book The Children of the Law of One and The Lost Teachings of Atlantis draws the following distinction between his interpretation of Unconditional Love and Unselfish Love:

“Is Unselfish Love the same as unconditional love?”...  I guess you could say Unselfish Love is a type of unconditional love.  But if you interpret the words ‘unconditional love’ literally, it means giving to, or being supportive of someone, regardless of their actions, no matter what.  If we use that as the definition of unconditional love, then what we call Unselfish Love is different in an important way.  Unselfish Love does not mean giving the loved one anything they want, or supporting any and all actions.  Unconditional love like that, could be harmful to the one you love.  Unselfishly Loving someone does mean that you will always care for them, always still care about what is best for them, regardless of what the loved one may do or choose.  But there can be conditions set on interaction or support.”

I think that Lazaris’ use of the term Unconditional Love is more similar to the Unselfish Love that Jon talks about than indicated in this quote.  Recall that there are 49 ways to Love.  Unconditional Love involves the evolved, awakened choices among the 7 “doings” and 7 “beings” of Love which are selected to achieve maximum Spiritual benefit without constraint based upon Ego self interest.

No Harmful Thoughts

Unconditional Love is more of a lofty ideal than a practical reality for most of us human beings on earth.  The question becomes, is there a “simple” starting point to launch us down the road to true Unconditional Love?  I think that Djwhal Khul (Channeled by Alice Bailey) provides us with such a technique in the book “A Treatise on White Magic”.  It is disarmingly simple, yet effective.  It involves the practice of holding no harmful thoughts described in this quotations:

“Harmful magnetic conditions, as the result of man's wrong handling of force are the causes of evil in the world around us, including the three subhuman kingdoms. How can we, as individuals, change this? By the development in ourselves of Harmlessness. Therefore, study yourself from this angle. Study your daily conduct and words and thoughts so as to make them utterly harmless. Set yourself to think those thoughts about yourself and others which will be constructive and positive, and hence harmless in their effects. Study your emotional effect on others so that by no mood, no depression, and no emotional reaction can you harm a fellowman. Remember in this connection, violent spiritual aspiration and enthusiasm, misplaced or misdirected, may quite easily harm a fellowman, so look not only at your wrong tendencies but at the use of your virtues.

If harmlessness is the keynote of your life, you will do more to produce right harmonious conditions in your personality than any amount of discipline along other lines. The drastic purgation brought about by the attempt to be harmless will go far to eliminate wrong [102] states of consciousness. See to it therefore, and bring this idea in your evening review.

I would like to urge each one who reads these pages to make a fresh beginning in spiritual living. I would say to him, forget all past achievements, realize fervour, and concentrate upon the Plan.

By this time some progress in group realization has surely been made, and less interest in the separated self has been gained. More faith in the Good Law which guides all creation to ultimate perfection has been visioned without doubt, and, through this vision, has come the capacity to take one's eyes off the affairs of individual experience, and fasten them on the working out of the purpose for the whole. This is the objective and the goal. Breadth of vision, inclusiveness of understanding and a widened horizon are the preliminary essentials to all work under the guidance of the hierarchy of adepts; the stabilizing of the consciousness in the one life, and the recognition of the basic unity of all creation has to be somewhat developed before any one can be trusted with certain knowledges and Words of Power and the manipulation of those forces which bring the subjective reality into outer manifestation.

Therefore, I say to you at this time, I - an older and perhaps more experienced disciple and worker in the great vineyard of the Lord - practice harmlessness with zest and understanding, for it is (if truly carried out) the destroyer of all limitation. Harmfulness is based on selfishness, and on an egocentric attitude. It is the demonstration of forces concentrated for self-enforcement, self-aggrandizement, and self-gratification. Harmlessness is the expression of the life of the man who realizes himself to be everywhere, who lives consciously as a soul, whose nature is love, whose method is inclusiveness, and to whom all forms are alike in that they veil and hide the light, and are but externalizations of [103] the one Infinite Being. This realization, let me remind you, will demonstrate in a true comprehension of a brother's need, divorced from sentiment and expediency. It will lead to that silence of the tongue which grows out of non-reference to the separate self. It will produce that instantaneous response to true need which characterizes the Great Ones who (passing beneath the outer appearance) see the inner cause which produces the conditions noted in the outer life, and so, from that point of wisdom, true help and guidance can be given. Harmlessness brings about in the life caution in judgment, reticence in speech, ability to refrain from impulsive action, and the demonstration of a non-critical spirit. So, free passage can be given to the forces of true love, and to those spiritual energies which seem to vitalize the personality, leading consequently to right action.

Let harmlessness, therefore, be the keynote of your life. An evening review should be carried forward entirely along this line; divide the review work in three parts and consider:

1.Harmlessness in thought. This will primarily result in the control of speech.

2.Harmlessness in emotional reaction. This will result in being a channel for the love aspect of the soul.

3.Harmlessness in act. This will produce poise, skill in action and the release of the creative will.

These three approaches to the subject should be studied from their effects upon one's own self and development, and from their effect upon those whom one contacts and upon one's environing associates.”

Kabbalistic Perspective

From the perspective of the Kabbalah and the Tree of Life (see John Van Auken’s “Edgar Cayce and the Kabbalah”, Israel Regardie’s “The Tree of Life”, etc.) the Soul can be seen as having the following main divisions:


These are introduced by Israel Regardie in “The Tree of Life” as follows:

According to Qabalistic teachings there are four major divisions comprising the human soul: Neshamah, Ruach, Nephesh, and Guph (or G'uph). (The Neshamah is further subdivided into three parts.) The Nephesh is the part of  the soul that corresponds to the Sephirah of Yesod, the lower self and the lower unconscious. It is similar to Freud's concept of the id. The Nephesh contains primal instincts, fundamental drives and animal vitality. It is often attributed to the etheric double or the astral body. Theurgists are admonished to keep the potent powers of the Nephesh under the firm control of the Ruach or intellect centered in Tiphareth...

In Qabalah, the Yechidah, a subdivision of the Greater Neshamah, is the highest  part of the soul located in Kether. It is described as the true Divine Self, the purest form of consciousness.  The Chayah is the part of the soul located in Chokmah. It is described as the life-force, divine will, and source of action. The Neshamah proper, or intuitive soul,  is found in Binah and it refers to the highest aspirations of the soul. The  Greater Neshamah encompasses the three Supernals of Kether, Chokmah, and Binah and is indicative of the highest part of the human soul...

The Guph is the lowest part of the soul, centered in Malkuth. It is a low level of  subconscious intelligence that is closely tied to the physical body.

Of particular interest here, is Regardie’s description of the Ruach:

Below the Abyss, the next five Sephiroth are named the Human Soul or the Ruach, a composite principle of Reason, Will, Imagination, Memory, and Emotion centered in the Sephirah of Harmony. It is this Ruach which is the created vehicle of the Real Self a mechanism so to speak created through long aeons of evolution, toil and suffering, as a means of acquiring contact with the outside world so that by means of the experience thus obtained, the Self may come to  a self-conscious realization of its own divine powers and high nature. It is in Ruach that self-consciousness is centered, although the psychological anomaly is true that this perceptual mechanism, evolved solely as an instrument, usurps the power of that which gave it birth, setting itself on a pedestal as the Ego, as that which has real power, insight, will, and the ability to solve the problems of life.  This Ruach calling itself "I," changing momentarily with the passing of time, upset by the flux and pressing surge of mutable thoughts and convulsive emotions, is just the one thing which is not "I." Simply a vehicle, it has assumed - as an ape simulates the actions of its master - the prerogative of a separate existence, divorcing itself from its own divine lord, the energy which alone gives it life and  sustenance. In Magic it is this empirical ego, this lower self which must be offered up in sacrifice to the Holy Guardian Angel. As the  concept of sacrifice implies that that which is renounced should be the best and the greatest sacrifice, so a well-developed Ruach, well-trained in all the processes of logic and thought, well stored with knowledge and observation, and perfect so far as is possible in the things of its own realm, is the greatest sacrifice which the Magician can lay upon the altar, as an offering to the most High: "He that  loses his life shall find it."

The undoing of Ego misconceptions and the perfection of the Ruach is what the awakening of the Valued Self and Unconditional Love is really about!

HOME: http://www.alsworldview.com/alsworldview/Welcome.html

0 Fool

III Empress





II High Priestess

I Magician



XI Strength








Hanged Man



XVI Tower














Wheel of Fortune




(1 Kether)


(2 Chokmah)

(4 Chesed)

(7 Netzach)


(10 Malkuth)

(6 Tiphareth)


(3 Binah)

(5 Geburah)

(8 Hod)


(9 Yesod)


(Chesed, Geburah, Tiphareth, Netzach, Hod)



(Kether, Chokmah,